I’ve been a Work at Home Mum for about 7 years now. I took voluntary redundancy when I was on maternity leave with Girl Child and haven’t looked back. Before that I was working part time in libraries while my Mum looked after Boy Child. Having had a taste of working for myself, I am certain I never want to go back to being an employee. It’s a bit like I’ve been deinstitutionalised! Here the reason I don’t think I could ever be an employee again.
I don’t think I’d actually make it to work
Every morning, I leave the house at the last possible moment I need to. I’d love to blame the kids for this but they are up at 6.20 (Every bloody day) and aren’t allowed downstairs until they have brushed their teeth, showered/washed and got themselves dressed. This means they are basically ready for school by 7am. The problem is me. I just love sleep too much. Once I’ve managed to get myself up, I need at least half an hour with a cup of tea before I can even contemplate getting dressed and making breakfast. If I had to get myself to a point where I looked presentable enough for work, there would be no chance of me managing it before the kids needed to be in school.
I couldn’t deal with having a boss again
One of the main problems with the whole job thing, is the whole boss thing. I hate being told what to do. While some of my bosses have been fine (great even) there really is no guarantee. You might take a job where the boss is great but then they leave and you’re stuck with some insufferable idiot on a power trip who wants to time your bathroom breaks.
How would I do the “life admin”?
I spend a fair amount of my time dealing with life admin. Not just mine, but the kids too. As well as (all the) cleaning there is a constant stream of invites, permission slips, dates to remember, appointments to make and events to plan. I truly don’t know how parents who work out of the home cope. If I got a job, I suspect I’d very soon be “that Mum” who doesn’t reply to invitations and the school have to constantly chase for trip payments.
I wouldn’t be able to eat all day!
Eating what I want, when I want, is one of the great joys of being a work at home mum. Now that the kids are in school 9-3, I structure my day in such a way as I can fit in two snacks and a lunch and sometimes all of these meals consist of chocolate and crisps, particularly after the school holidays when I’ve had to eat properly for a week or two. I suspect that if I was a work, I wouldn’t afforded the freedom to eat on a two hourly basis.
The Politics would push me over the edge
I know from experience that I wouldn’t be able to stay out of things. Working in the public sector I saw a lot of decisions made they I knew were crazy. I was never able to stand back quietly and just watch the service users suffer. This meant that work was often a very stressful experience and I really would t want to go back to that.
I like to be in control
Just the idea of having to be at a certain place, at a certain time everyday makes me feel trapped. One of the things I love about working for myself is the freedom to choose how I spend my days. If I’m bored of something, I can do something else. If I’m not feeling great, I can work on something I find easier. If inspiration strikes, I can run with my idea without having to wait for anyone’s permission.
When I was employed I was pretty much always looking for the next job. I got bored very quickly and was always searching for a role that would keep me interested. Working for myself, in my own space, means that I’m free to choose my own direction so that I don’t get bored and that is really the main reason I don’t think I’ll ever be an employee again.
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Viv Simone says
I agree with this so much! I was made redundant last year while I was pregnant and haven’t worked since. Before redundancy I worked for my partner at his VR arcade and other than discussing what was required of me in our company group chat it didn’t feel like I had a boss. The plan once we secure investment is to make me a company director so I’m hoping I don’t have to be an employee again!
Ali Duke says
I currently work in retail and hate it. I have just gone back to work after having 6 months off due to depression. That time off has really made me realise how much I want to work for myself and be out of there. Hoping that soon I will have my blog making enough money to at least cover my part-time wage and I can hand my notice in. And I love your eating plan, more jobs should let you eat every 2 hours lol.
Retail is hard going if you’re hating it, fingers crossed for you that you start making enough from your blog soon and can indulge in my two hourly eating plan! X