When you have a baby, a long line of people rock up to your house with gifts for said baby. This is all well and good, but what about gifts for new mums? While the baby is lovely, it’s unlikely to care if you’ve bought it yet another cute outfit or it’s tenth Jelly Cat toy. Mum however has just been through an ordeal great enough to cause actual PTSD for some, and yet no one brings her anything. Here are some suggestions of what you should really take when you visit a new mum for the first time.
Number 1 in the list of Gifts for New Mums – A voucher for a laundry service
Babies create the most incredible amount of washing (particularly if they are unlucky enough to have colic), and at a time you are least able to keep up with it. Find a local laundry service and see if they do gift vouchers. Or if you really like her, offer to do a few loads yourself.
Special Tea or Coffee – New Mums need caffeine
Or any other hot drink she partakes in. While it’s unlikely she’ll actually manage to drink it hot for the next 3 years, she will require caffeine. If you really want to go the extra mile, go retro and get her a Teas Made.
A Fanny Care Kit
Poor Fanny goes through an awful lot during birth and could really use some TLC. I suggest arnica tablets to promote, tea tree oil for daily sitz baths and a rubber ring to allow the poor woman to actually sit down without crying.
A Boob Care Kit
On a related note, the boobs are on their own journey here, especially if she’s breastfeeding. How about a voucher for a nursing bra fitting, lansinoh for the sore nipples and a cabbage to reduce swelling when the milk comes in.
A Dishwasher – No new mum should be without one
If you know a woman about to become a mother who doesn’t have a dishwasher I strongly suggest this is the way you go. Club together with friends, start a crowd funding campaign if you need to, but don’t leave the poor woman with a baby and a kitchen full of washing up.
When it comes to gifts for new mums, food is always a good choice. Cooking pretty much goes out of the window in the early months so frozen home cooked meals are always appreciated. Just make sure it’s something she can eat with one because she won’t be able to put the baby down for more than about ten minutes for the next year.
A Good Concealer (but only If you’re close!)
Probably only acceptable if you are close friends. She won’t be getting much sleep and a good concealer can help her hide it. She won’t be any less tired but it might be a relief if people comment less on how tired she looks. A voucher for a make over works too.
A “Pinned down by the baby” survival kit
Babies don’t like sleeping in cots or Moses Baskets or any of the other contraptions we buy for them. They like to sleep on mummy. This means that new mums spend a lot of their time pinned down under a sleeping baby. This can be lovely, as long as you have everything you need within arms length. Create her a basket which contains drinks, lip balm, tissues, snacks, an emergency phone charger and a book, to keep near her at all times.
If she’s having her second baby, buy for the first
Once you’re on baby number two, your number one concern is how the hell you are going to cope with two of them. Put together a box of things that the older one can do independently while mum is feeding the baby.
I think all new mums deserve something from this list, plus a nice bottle of something for when the time comes. I’d love to hear what gifts you’d have liked to received as a new mum?
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