10 Things I Wish I’d Known BC (Before Children)

10 things I wish I knew BC

So, as I’ve said before, I was completely, sorrowfully unprepared for parenthood (and it seems I’m not the only one.) Here are the 10 things I wish I had known.

How many people would put there fingers up my hoo ha

When you decide to have a baby, you think about having a lovely bump and then a squidgy baby to cuddle. What you don’t realise is that, in order to get from the lovely bump to the squidgy baby, the world and his wife need to poke at your lady bits in the manor of a small boy picking his nose.

That Night feeds are not just feeds

Obviously I was aware that babies need to be fed in the night. What I didn’t realise was that babies have no concept of the DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DAY AND NIGHT! Why? What horrific design floor is this? It means that when they wake up for a feed, they are just as likely to decide it’s playtime, as they are to go back to sleep.

That The sound track to my life would change

When they were small I would put them in the sling, turn the music up and dance around till they fell asleep (not ideal sleeping conditions for an adult, but works a treat for babies). Once they start learning to talk, things change. They repeat everything they hear. The Prodigy’s “Smack my B**** up” is replaced with “Ride a Cock horse”. Hang on, wait, what?

How unfazed I’d become about bodily fluids

Within the first 6 months you will think nothing of wiping dribble with your hand, catching vomit or continuing to wear a top you’re pretty sure has been weed on. Having said that, I was still traumatised when one of them was sick in my ear.

About the enforced diet

When I was still very sleep deprived with my first child, I consumed an entire packet of chocolate biscuits a day. When I was sleep deprived with my second child, this was no longer possible. Every time Boy child heard the rustle of the pack he was there, shouting “snack time, snack time!” And so, for fear of turning him into a blimp as well as myself. I was forced to wait until actual snack time and to consume only a reasonable number of biscuits (5 is reasonable, right?)

That Kids throw up in their sleep

I shit you not. Presumably they wake up when they actually throw up. Then, instead of thinking “ooo, I should call someone to clean this up” they just go back to sleep. My kids have done this on numerous occasions, two in particular stick in my head. The first was on Boy Child’s third birthday. My Mum made him a fire engine cake, plastered with bright red butter cream. When we went in the next morning it looked like a scene from a bad vampire movie.

The other time was the day Girl Child decided she liked salmon (a miracle given her eating habits). We were so excited that we let her eat a whole fillet. In the morning, the smell hit us as soon as we opened her door. Washing dried chunks of salmon vomit out of a two year olds hair before you’ve had your morning caffeine is not recommended.

That Children poo in inappropriate places

The idea of this would have horrified me pre children. Poo goes in the toilet and that’s that. Toddler however have other ideas. My children have done it while crawling across the carpet, on the decking in the garden and smeared down the patio door, as well as each doing one in the bath for good measure. On each of these occasions, they seemed completely unaware they had done it. 

How much I’d have to deal with other people’s children

Many people who decide to have children will tell you that while they don’t like kids in general, they love their own. What they don’t mention is the fact that they still have to deal with other people’s children all the time. From getting puked on by someone else’s baby at massage class to breaking up fights when your kid’s bestie comes to play. There’s no escape.

That I would use text messages to have private conversations 

Once your kids are old enough to understand you, there will be times when you’ll need to text someone who is sitting right next to you. This is because, if you mention an activity in their hearing, you will have to do that activity. So, if I casually suggest taking the kids to the park in their earshot, they will harass us until we do it. 

That There would be Parasites

Not that the children are parasites (I mean they are, but that’s not where I’m going with this). I mean the kind they bring home from school. ‘Nuff said (and if you don’t know what I’m on about, your time will come).

Having written this, I have realised I should really have called it “10 things it’s best I didn’t know before I had kids” because let’s face it, who’s going to sign up for that!

If you’ve enjoyed this post then you’re in luck, as it’s part of Write Club there are 9 other fantastic bloggers who have written posts on this very topic so why not go and check them out!

Nicole from Tales from Mammaville can think of waay more than 10 things, Helen from Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee is wishing she’d appreciated her pre children life a bit more, Carly from Mom of two Little Girls, is also considering things from her partners perspective, Helen from The Mulberry Bush warns us to choose our reading materials carefully. Desperate Housewife Tracey is struggling to think back as far as prechildren and James from You have to laugh wants to five his preparent self a good talking to. Erica from The Incidental Parent, wishes she had been warned about my personal pet hate, dressing up days and Anna from Me, Annie Bee, wishes she’d known that “Peppa is like Smack for Preschoolers”. Finally, Kate from The Mum Conundrum is missing being able to take a sick day.

10 things I wish I’d known Before children Image of baby eating a banana



  1. February 5, 2019 / 2:58 pm

    It’s probably best that you don’t know these things beforehand. But, once you find out first hand it’s still so easy to go on and do it all again! #it’sOk

    • February 9, 2019 / 4:31 pm

      I second this, sometimes the naivety of first time was a blessing in disguise, when things happened you just dealt with it. I think I could have got a bit stressed out worrying about these things otherwise.

  2. Jodie
    February 5, 2019 / 8:40 pm

    Absolutely love this

  3. February 5, 2019 / 8:52 pm

    Brilliant read. Made me giggle a lot. I was so up for being a mum and totally ready when I fell pregnant, even at my young age, but yes, the poo and vomit scenarios (both of which are similar stories to yours) and the sleep deprivation are what I wasn’t prepared for!

  4. February 6, 2019 / 11:20 pm

    Josie I am crying reading this! It’s so bloody funny! How can kids just lie in their own puke, FFS!! Thanks for the mention too – will add yours into mine 🙂 #itsOK x

    • Jo
      February 9, 2019 / 11:33 am

      They are truly gross!

  5. February 7, 2019 / 10:25 am

    Actually laughed out loud at your son throwing up the cake 😂. Yes there’s a lot I didn’t anticipate about becoming a parent too

  6. February 7, 2019 / 11:25 am

    I think we kind of gloss over these bits before we have children otherwise we’d never do it!

  7. February 7, 2019 / 8:03 pm

    Ha ha hilarious Jo! I love the one about being unphased with bodily fluids. Both my kids had diarrhoea last weekend and honestly I still can’t believe what I cleaned up and wiped away over those three days. I never thought I’d be able for it but there you go! And just recently my 4 year old daughter did the whole vomiting in her sleep thing so I can identify with that one too. Oh it never gets boring does it?! #itsok

    • Jo
      February 9, 2019 / 11:29 am

      So glad my kids aren’t the only ones that vomit in their sleep!

  8. February 8, 2019 / 3:49 pm

    There are soooo many things we don’t know before kids! This is hilarious.

  9. February 9, 2019 / 7:29 am

    Love this! We spell out activity names so we don’t have to say the word but it takes us way too long to work out what the other person is spelling 😂

    • Jo
      February 9, 2019 / 11:30 am

      We used to do that but my spelling is unreliable at best so changed to texting!

  10. February 9, 2019 / 8:41 am

    If I had known I would of never had children and then missed out the best part of my life Thanks for linking to #Thatfridaylinky hope to see you next week

    • Jo
      February 9, 2019 / 11:32 am

      Definitely best we don’t know these things!

  11. February 9, 2019 / 9:38 am

    I was nodding away furiously – yes, all of this! And then – what? Puke in their sleep? The poo goes where?! Ha ha – my kid is only one, so you’ve prepped me for the road ahead. Eek. Great post. Xx (From Brazen Mummy Writes – another Blogging Mums Club groupie.)

    • Jo
      February 9, 2019 / 11:31 am

      I bet you’re really looking forward to the next few years now aren’t you!

  12. February 9, 2019 / 11:57 am

    Oh wow, children sound terrifying!

  13. February 9, 2019 / 6:30 pm

    You can decline people poking about your vagina if you want to.

    I laughed at the bodily fluids – never did I expect to catch pooh

    In my hands

    On purpose.

  14. February 9, 2019 / 9:20 pm

    Hilarious! The text message comment made me laugh!!

  15. February 10, 2019 / 9:25 am

    Oh wow! Flashbacks to 2 hours of ‘playing’ after a 2.00am feed! Thanks for the reminder. Funny how you can block some of the trauma from your mind. lol
    Thanks for linking up to the #ItsOK Linky. Hope to see you back next week.

  16. February 10, 2019 / 7:09 pm

    I had not taken into other peoples kids. Deep breathe I think those days are coming sooner than later.

  17. February 10, 2019 / 7:21 pm

    The soundtrack I hundred percent agree tends to change quite a bit. Thank goodness for Disney upping their soundtrack game.

  18. February 11, 2019 / 9:31 am

    I am definitely not a fan of parasites! That being said, snot and vomit just turn me green! You would think I would be over that by now wouldn’t you! #itsok

  19. February 11, 2019 / 8:57 pm

    Yup, nodding along to all of these #itsok

  20. February 14, 2019 / 10:54 am

    Dealing with other people’s children is the worst! Haha. And as I’m currently trying to do my blog work whilst cuddling a 4yr old who has already puked on me 3 times this morning, I can relate to the bodily fluids point too! #blogcrush

  21. February 18, 2019 / 3:13 pm

    OMG! The fire engine red sleep vomit sounds like the stuff of nightmares!!! Yup you’re right, if we knew the gross stuff we were in for, we’d never sign up! Great read. X

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