Leaving your toddler somewhere without you is hard. It automatically kicks the mum guilt into a high gear. If your toddler sobs their little heart out as you walk out of the door, mum guilt goes in to overdrive. We’ve all been there, which alone should tell us that we don’t need to feel guilty […]
Life with Babies and Toddlers
I found the baby years challenging to say the least. I had postnatal depression, struggled to bind with my babies and found the sleep deprivation very hard to cope with. Both of my babies had colic which meant hours of screaming every night and one was particularly sicky so I smelt of vomit for a good six months.
By the time they were toddlers I was coping a bit better but still found parenting relentless. As an introvert, I need a certain amount of alone time to function and unfortunately toddlers, who like to keep you company even on the toilet, don’t really allow for that.
Despite the challenges, we did have some good times. After my second was born I knew it was important for me to get out of the house so started attending a toddler group. I made friends and eventually ended up running the group which gave me a sense of purpose.
Society still pushes the image of women who are happy and fulfilled simply because they have had a baby however this isn’t the case for most women. Motherhood manages somehow to be both the hardest thing I’ve done as well as being mind numbingly boring for much of the time.
There is a big difference between loving your baby and loving motherhood. While I did slowly fall in love with my babies, I’ve never fallen in love with motherhood, and that’s ok. There are a hundred different ways to be a good mum, finding parenthood so tough in the early years has taught me not to judge others and I hope people afford me the same courtesy.
I found that the best way to cope with motherhood was through honestly and humour so many of the posts in this section laugh at the challenges or give honest accounts of them along with some advice on how to cope.
Once your baby graduates to toddler, they will be into everything. You may be tempted to buy them endless toys in an attempt to keep them away from things they aren’t allowed (your phone, the oven, the cat etc). A better approach is buy the toys that will hold their attention. My children had hundreds […]
When you do your pre baby shopping you’ll likely be focussed on clothes, endless cute outfits that they’ll probably only wear once but are too lovely to resist, and equipment, prams, cots, breast pumps, bottles etc. In the first months your baby won’t need any toys but as they start to grow into a bigger […]
Sleep training is a very emotive topic, some people are horrified by it and some people feel it’s the only way to cope. I am of the latter camp. After I had my first baby, I had postnatal depression and struggled to bond with him. I was certain that if I could just sleep, I would […]
When I was pregnant with my first child, I decided not to do NCT classes. Money was tight, time was tight and I wasn’t sure they were really for me. It remains one of my greatest parenting regrets (and I’m not the only one). Here’s why I really do think NCT classes are worth it. […]